Monday, March 22, 2010
And their punkass kids, whose outdoor play I used to think was charming, have gotten tiresome as they leave their trash in our yard, they drag branches into our driveway, throw rocks at our fence, and stomp in Paul's new flowerbed. I can mostly ignore the constant yelling.
Paul helpfully reminded me not to worry, within a year or two they'll all be inside smoking pot and playing video games.
I can hardly wait.
In other news, Saturday night the police were being very active on our block, with cars parked all around with lights on, a helicopter circling our block and maybe two others for about 1.5 hours, and apparently, though we didn't receive this honor, the cops were in the yards of the next block over with guns and dogs.
But no one knows why.
Our neighbor who is very nice said she called the police to find out and they basically pretended there was nothing. She seemed very concerned that nothing like that had ever happened in this neighborhood before...
Yup, the place has gone to shit, could you tell the parents of those punkass boys, so they can move to a better neighborhood please?
Saturday, March 13, 2010
I spent the last week mostly in training, so now I'm about a week behind at work. Which means I have to weeks to actually catch up on my quarterly OKRs before declaring myself an utter failure for the quarter (wouldn't be the first time I suppose)
But we were invited to go visit friends who recently had a second baby! And are very excited. We didn't want to bug them unless invited because we don't want to be in the way, and assume they haven't gotten enough sleep and don't need our bother. We have a terrible cat and are very sympathetic to no sleep, you see?
I let Paul sleep in until 9:30 on the weekends before I start trying to convince him to make me waffles. 24 more minutes...
Tuesday, March 09, 2010
My parents have been dropping off bags and bags of oranges from their tree every time they dropped by for the past few weeks. And we had a lot of lemons left from our tree. So Saturday I decided to squeeze all of our citruses. I went through several bags of oranges and came up with about half a pitcher of orange juice. 10 lemons each yielded two pitchers of lemonade, and I had the satisfaction of no more unused fruits taunting me when I went in the kitchen. While I did this, Paul hovered nearby baking some bread from scratch to impress my bread-loving mother.
This is one of several lives I imagine for myself. I can't live them all, but day to day I guess I can squeeze some of them in.
Saturday night I went to the City to work and got to see Marisa which was fantastic. We're going to go see her next play on opening night! It's a good work night when it doesn't rain and I don't encounter too much "creative" 2am driving on the freeway ride home.
Sunday I got some projects in order and cleaned up the homestead a bit in time for the girls to come over for craft day. I hemmed some curtains and then moved on to more embroidery for my quilt project. "Embroidery," you're saying, "how horribly grandma!" First, I love my grandma and aspire to her greatness. Secondly, embroidery can be way cute and fun. I'll be making the busiest damn quilt ever. Sure, I considered making a classy, subdued, elegant quilt, but where would be the fun in that? This will be awesome and so busy I won't be able to sleep under it due to its loudness. And then the cat will puke on it, and like a movie theater carpet, you won't even notice because the whole thing is so busy anyway. Maybe I'll embroider around the puke stain for posterity.
Other projects boing done at craft day: knitting (and swearing), crazy quilt piecing, and painting numbers for a toddler's bedroom.
And Paul showed off by making soup as well and generally spoiling us with yummy snacks. You should totally come next time.
Saturday, February 27, 2010
Wednesday, February 24, 2010
Actually I was hoping to find some coping methods, and I found the following:
- laughing gas (that might work, but I don't think the nurse will give me that if I just ask)
- desensitization MIGHT work, but probably not
- something called applied tension, which has to do with taking in a deep breath and tensing most of your muscles, with the idea of getting blood to your brain
- lying down and pulling your knees up to your chest (will look ridiculous, but might as well try it) - it's actually possible if you are sitting up and your blood pressure drops, for your brain to lose all its oxygen and kill you. (I know, extreme)
- any methods like meditation meant to relax you are contraindicated, because you're actually trying to keep your blood pressure UP, not down.
I also read that 80% of people with aversions such as mine have a close relative with the same-- maybe genetic. I don't think anyone in my family has it this bad though.
I know, I know, practically everyone dislikes needles, but do they try to pass out every time they have blood drawn, and have to have the nurses paged? Just thinking about it puts me on edge.
Tuesday, February 23, 2010
We've been puttering mostly, keeping the seats warm at our local beer-serving cafe, dealing with the house, crafting, etc.
I picked up another night of cashiering at DNA Lounge this month, which was fun. Different crowd, including people I had not seen in probably 10 years. I choked back laughter as people told me sternly that they were in Steampunk costume, as though it was very serious business. The absolute best thing was parents showing up with their kids to take part in the dance lessons early in the evening-- too cute!
Then of course, New Wave City, where I got my 5 minutes/month allotment of the fabulous James and Tara!
We had advised the landlord that there was a stain on the wall in the dining room due to water damage from the heavy rains. After first asking us to find a contractor to get a quote, he instead sent over a guy to "fix" the problem with caulk. Of course this will not fix the problem, and we pointed out that we were worried about mold. We'll be testing for mold in a month or so to see whether the damage is our problem (toxic mold, we need to push to get it fixed) or their problem (rotting walls, even if they don't bring mold, do mean the house will eventually fall apart). The whole experience was pretty eye-opening. We had gone to Home Depot Saturday to get an 8 foot ladder so Paul could get up and look in the gutters. The gutters over the wall that has the stain were full-- of CEMENT. That had been put there wet (it was dried in the shape of the gutter and had to be removed by chisel) and was of course completely blocking 2/3 of that gutter. Nice work, roofers! If it were our house, we'd have the drywall ripped out and replaced to prevent more structural damage, but it's not our house. So, caulk! There, I fixed it!
Valentines Day rolled around and I made cinnamon rolls from scratch for Paul again. They were all kinds of tasty and not hard to make. We went to a nursery to pick out some flowers to plant and got seeds for vegetables too. Now we just need dirt.
Saturday we had a bunch of people over for craft day again, and I got to work on some embroidery for the quilt I am now, finally, working on. Paul fed us snacks and kept the fresh squeezed lemonade coming, and a good time was had by all. Next craft day is on the schedule for very soon. Let me know if you're interested in joining us.
Yesterday I went for a checkup and my nice-seeming doctor showed her true evil by sending me to get blood drawn. The appointment people had asked me to fast when I made the appointment, so I was already feeling pretty terrible (almost blacked out in the shower in the morning before I even went to the doctor) I keep thinking the blood draws will get easier, but they actually get worse every time. This time, they ended up paging two nurses to rush over to me and it was all very dramatic and embarrassing. This episode took the wind out of my sails and I was completely and utterly exhausted for the rest of the day. Did they get enough blood? ugh.
Today will be better, as I've been promised cupcakes.
Monday, January 25, 2010
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This is the embroidery sampler bag from a great book called Doodle Stitching. It is suppoed to hold your embroidery hop and since it has all the stitches on the book on it, serve as a reference. But it is really small, even thought I made mine bigger than the book suggested, so only my smallest embroidery hoop can fit (barely) in it. Also, I think I made it more crooked than was suggested by the book, but WHATEVER. I FINISHED.
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And then became obsessed with the idea of making a quilt. So I spent a week looking at fabrics in the store and online, until whenever I closed my eyes, I saw textiles prints. The ones I was hoping to find, but couldn't. I never found the right fabric for the handquilted project I want to do (inspired by a project in this fabulous book called Last Minute Patchwork + Quilted Gifts)
By this past weekend I was saturated, and finally decided to try my luck ordering several fabrics online. I expect colors will be a problem, so I'll probably have to go shopping again to replace the ones that don't work.
Saturday Paul and I finally got our H1N1 vaccines. Oddly enough, NOT covered by insurance! The woman in front of us in line at the pharmacy was being told that her medicine was goint to cost her $300 because that's all her insurance would cover. She said she guessed she'd just have to do with out it if she couldn't get a special coupon from her doctor.
We need Single Payer Health coverage! It's embarrassing that we can't take care of ourselves, that "insurance" companies get to take premiums and then not cover prescribed medicines, and that they refuse to cover vaccines which? are a hell of a lot cheaper than treatments.
Oh, and ever since my vaccine, I'm feeling mildly autistic. Which I'm hoping will help me get a fancy engineering job. Maybe I should go back for another shot.
Thursday, January 21, 2010
words
I've got my party hat on in wild anticipation and everything.
Woot! Hope! Change!
Tuesday, January 12, 2010
Tell Congress to Get It Right! Protect Women’s Access to Abortion in Health Care Reform
The health care reform bills in both the Senate and the House include severe restrictions on women’s health. We must let our senators and representatives know that both provisions are unacceptable and must not be included in any final health care legislation.
Now, as the House and Senate prepare to reconcile the differences between their two bills, please tell your senators and representative to go back and get it right!
Will you take action, too?
http://action.aclu.org/
Sunday, January 10, 2010
My 10 hour honeymoon with Comcast=OVER
They finally told me that they don't support Macintosh. Which? has zero to do with DNS or why the stuff wasn't showing up in their little user settings console. (I knew this but just to be a good little user, I tested by using Paul's Windoze machine, with Internet Exploder, and it still wasn't there) But let it be a warning to any other Mac users out there: Comcast doesn't want your business, and the opt-out service (and who knows what else) are not supported for Macintosh. And they won't tell you this up front.
"After reviewing your email and checking my resources, I found out that the disable option is not available for Macintosh and likewise Intel Mac OS X 10.5 is not yet supported by us as of this time. Most Mac-compatible features of Comcast High-Speed Internet (CHSI) should work with Leopard; however, as Leopard is not yet officially supported by Comcast, there may be some Mac-compatible CHSI products that will not work. I do apologize for any inconvenience this may cause."In case anyone besides Comcast is living under a rock, Leopard was released over 2 years ago-- not exactly bleeding edge.
Here's what I want from an ISP: send my fucking packets. The way you're supposed to. Not redirecting them to some craptastic site that makes you more money and wastes my time. The way I have my settings in my browser should be the way things work. I just want the intertubes. To send my stuff through. Not your "service" that you won't allow me to opt out of. I don't want any of your vaguely mentioned "Mac-compatible CHSI products that will not work." NO products, please! Just Internet Service. Tubes. Or, a dumptruck, or whatever.
Solution:
http://code.google.com/speed/public-dns/docs/using.html
Took me ten minutes, set it at the router level, and so far, so good. I trust google not to override my choices. I may be biased, but they have not done me wrong so far.
Update: 10 minutes later, I recieve my first bill from Comcast, and they are already trying to overcharge us. The recurring service they are trying to bill me is $15 more than we agreed on. I saved the original chat with the original number, but I'm guessing this is why they've been so opaque all along.
Saturday, January 09, 2010
DNS Hijacking for only 49.99/month!
anyone using alternative DNS out there, can offer pointers or reports on how wonky it might be?
Friday, January 08, 2010
Sunday, January 03, 2010
Wednesday night I finished sewing a Christmas present (yes, really) and started another craft experiment.
Thursday I slept in too late to allow for my scheduled errands, and then Paul and I lived it up in Sunnyvale in the following way: we gulped down a bottle of "California Sparkling Wine" on the way to the thrift store, ate a nice dinner at the local Mexican joint, and then wandered around Target drunk, wondering what the hell we could possibly do for fun in Sunnyvale on New Year's Eve. The conclusion was "nothing," so we returned home and had our very first fireplace night using the remnant of a duraflame left by previous tenants. We were in bed by 11, and woken up by the local kids screaming at midnight.
Which was nice because it meant I had saved my overindulgence for the following day, when we went to some friends' house in Alameda, where I drank many the beerz and talked to much and too loud. We saw old friends, and I realized that many of them were the same I spent my last turn-of-decade New Years' with back when the world was supposed to end due to some poor coding bug thingie.
Saturday I had my New Year's headache, a day late, which I scrubbed off at the Farmer's Market and coffee house before my parents came over to bring us more firewood and the Christmas gifts we'd left at their house. Just in time too, because we'd need the new waffle iron since our other one tried to catch fire on Thursday morning. Saturday night I worked at New Wave City.
Sunday I went to my parents' house to finally give Nuno felting a whirl, with mixed results. It was interesting and fun, and one of two projects coming out nice isn't too bad I suppose. Needs more experimenting.
In between I did some goal setting, and we hammered out finances to try to stay on track in the next year, including a series of funny discussions in the past few days about, for instance, whether we can afford to run the electric heater in the bathroom for 45 minutes/day (we can!), and whether we can afford to continue our fancy cellphone service (we cannot). We spent 30 minutes agonizing over dumping netflix or keeping on at the lowest possible subscription, where $4/month still seemed like too much to bear. Then we went and blew the difference on margaritas at the local Mexican joint. Ah! We are so enigmatic!
I also felt very proud of putting a boatload of extra time in at the gym this month, and celebrated by not exercising at all, and eating a bunch of garbage for 4 days. hooray?
Thursday, December 31, 2009
Year-End Repetitive Navel-Gazing Thingie
I've been using this inventory for the past few years or so. a lot of these things don't seem to apply to me very well anymore, but I'm always loathe to give up anything that might be *tradition* so here it is:
1. What did you do in 2009 that you'd never done before?
- Saw a Grizzly Bear!
- Went Kayaking
- Visited the Lost Coast
- Took up "running"
2. Did you keep your new years' resolutions, and will you make more for next year?
Career:
- apply for PMP, see if they'll accept my application to take the test
- develop a plan for career. When people ask me what I want to do in the future, I should have some sort of answer. Right now, I have no idea, and it is sort of embarrassing.
Health:
- I've decided to do the 100 pushup challenge! Because, why not? And I need trackable goals, as I don't do well with things like "lose weight" or "gain muscle"
- My main concern this year is getting my heart in shape. I need to talk with my doctor to be able to figure out exactly what this goal is, though.
Other:
- Max my 401K
- Save more cash for the shit economy
- Sew and craft more, and specifically: sew more and start making my own shampoo, etc. (the chemicals they use in body care products are really fucked up)
- Get Things Done.
The 100 pushup challenge was going OK until it gave me severe back pain, at which time I switched to chest presses, which got lost in the move around August.
Oh, here's one! I DID improve my cardiac health-- I think I'm doing really well on that front! yays.
The "other" goals were met... maxed my 401k and stashed some more cash besides, despite a challenging financial year for us. It just goes to show that anyone can save, even someone living in one of the most expensive areas of the country with only one income for two people.
I did ok on "more crafts" especially now that I have a sewing room. We did make a lot for Christmas, which I'll divulge after Christmas is over (after Epiphany!)
I Got Things Done. Other Things, I did not Get Done.
So how about 2010 goals?
Career:
- Keep my job.
- Grow my responsibilities and cross-functional work
- Do my damn PMP thing
- Continue "running," specifically continue improving my cardiovascular health
- Max out my 401K
- Meet the cash savings goals Paul and I are finalizing tonight
- Have monthly crafting day at my house with family and friends
- See my friends more
3. Did anyone close to you give birth?
I don't remember anything like that...
4. Did anyone close to you die?
No
5. What countries did you visit?
Canuckistan
6. What would you like to have in 2010 that you lacked in 2009?
hmmm, a second income? oh! A GOAT! and renter's insurance
7. What date from 2009 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?
September 27th, 2009! Our first wedding anniversary, and we spent it with my entire family. How... romantic. :/
8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?
I had some successes at work in a correcting an abandoned cross-functional project. That was relatively successful despite the complete abandonment from its previous owner.
More importantly, I handmade many of my Christmas gifts!
And, I stuck with "running" in spite of my inherent physical unfitness.
9. What was your biggest failure?
I still have not submitted my PMP application, despite my boss' not-always-gentle nagging
10. Did you suffer illness or injury?
just little things like needing physical therapy after taking up "running"
11. What was the best thing you bought?
tickets to the South. Savannah and Charleston and surrounding swamps were beautiful.
12. Whose behavior merited celebration?
I am so proud of Paul for deciding to go back to school, and persevering through all the red tape bullshit getting transcripts transferred (and opened) and all of that.
13. Whose behavior made you appalled and depressed?
Teabaggers. Michelle Bachmann. OMG, Glenn Beck-- holy crap if I see him cry on TeeVee one more time I may jump through the TeeVee and strangle him.
14. Where did most of your money go?
Savings and rent.
15. What did you get really, really, really excited about?
Moving out of our shithole in Mountain View. It had been so depressing and we were so happy to leave.
16. What songs/bands will always remind you of 2009?
Is it sick that I really like Lady Gaga's videos, which I only know about because they occasionally have them playing at breakfast in the cafe I eat in at work?
17. Compared to this time last year, are you happier or sadder?
Happier
ii. thinner or fatter?
Fatter.
iii. richer or poorer?
Richer
18. What do you wish you'd done more of?
Reading books, crafting, adventuring, learning
19. What do you wish you'd done less of?
I try to read the whole internet. It is to much, and I wish I could figure out how to stay so informed with less time. Without giving up all the cool blogs I read (yay Scienceblogs!)
I spent Christmas with family as always. This year, Paul and I finally had a house to put lights on and next year we hope to do more more more! I also spent quite a bit of time crafting for Christmas, with mostly good, and a few "uh, ok, that will have to do," results.
22. Did you fall in love in 2009?
I still fall! Every day!
23. How many one night stands?
No. I decided last year I'd change this question going forward to "What's on your night stand?"
- credit card from buying airline tickets last night
- glass of water, almost exactly half full, from drinking water in my sleep last night
- alarm clock-- truly alarming. I got it for Christmas and still have not gotten used to it
- Glasses-because I'm legally bind in one eye
- two red pens
- a piece of thread left from sewing in bed (what, I don't know)
- an fancy phone which I also am not yet used to
- The case for my NTI nightguard, which I still love
24. What were your favorite TV programs?
We still don't have TV but we still watch The Daily Show and Colbert Report on the internet for free, though lately we've been too busy
(what happened to 25?)
26. What was the best book you read?
Confederates in the Attic
27. What was your greatest musical discovery?
89.1 FM KCEA. It is THE BEST.
28. What did you want and get?
I desperately wanted to move from the shithole in Mountain View, and I am so happy with the place we live now. It is a boring place, but at least we don't have tweakers on our roof anymore.
Also, very importantly, a clean bill of health for my mother-in-law after some particularly nasty cancer treatment.
ahem, have I mentioned A GOAT?
OK, what I really wanted and did not get was a Mission Motors electric bike hottness. I know they do not exist for reals yet, but the proof-of-concept bike was SO much fun to ride.
Really... I guess there are few crafty buildy projects around the house I'd like.. like the glass display table and the ribbon/notions rack in the sewing room.
30. What was your favorite film(s) of this year?
We didn't go to the movies this year a single time. It's a total ripoff.
My parents were out of town, so we totally had a party at their house! It was nice: Paul BBQ'd, people brought their kids over to swim, and a nice mellow time was had by us old farts. I turned 32.
32. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
My grandfather. I think of him every day, and James too.
I can't afford fancy new clothes, and they are all made in China anyway.
I do like little bits of handmade jewelry though, and Paul got me several cute necklaces. And I got nice accessories from Etsy and my knitting mother... handmade FTW!
34. What kept you sane?
My dear patient husband... who watches me blow up on a regular basis and supports me when I take on too much. My job, which I love, and all the supporting stuff around that that removes roadblocks in my life (I don't have to cook! or join a gym! or have a cold butt when I got to the bathroom!)
35. Which celebrity/public figure(s) did you fancy the most?
Jon Stewart? Rachel Maddow?
36. What political issue stirred you the most?
Healthcare reform. We need a public option!
37. Who did you miss?
My grandfather and James, who are gone
My friends, who are all too far away or busy
38. Who was the best new person you met?
New person? There are new people out there?
39. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2009.
As Colbert noted the other night when talking with Tom Brokaw, a few hundred noisy people can become the majority in this country just by making a scene.
Also, don't count on there being jobs available-- you need savings, and a lot of it
40. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year.
I don't know... something about being poor but in love. We don't need money really.
First sentence of the month. And! A picture from each month!
January
I've been using this inventory for the past few years or so. a lot of these things don't seem to apply to me very well anymore, but I'm always loathe to give up anything that might be *tradition* so here it is:
| From 2009.01.30 Kansas Trip |
February
Kansas!
(no photos)
March
Paul and I have had an eye on the real estate markets for a couple of years now, and like to visit houses for sale when we can.
| From 2009.03 Trip to the South |
April
Homeopathy and all manner of stoopid pseudoscience crap bugs me.
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| From 2009 |
May
(no sentences.)
| From 2009.05.23-25 Westport |
June
We decided to go for a ride today.
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July
When I lived in downtown San Francisco, there was a little building crammed in amongst the others that always caught my eye.
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August
Keys to the new place!!!!!!
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| From 2009 |
September
(no blogs.)
| From 2009.09 Canada |
October
(no blogs.)
| From 2009.09 Canada |
November
I kept thinking that if I just had a chunk of quiet time, I would finally catch up on my blog.
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| From 2009 |
December
I've been sick the past two weeks, and you'd think staying at home would have given me time to update, but you'd be wrong.
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| From 2009 |
Tuesday, December 29, 2009
Atheist Christmas Traditions
In case you were wondering what I did for Christmas as a heathen atheist (or agnostic anyway)
Thursday, December 24, 2009
All Is Calm (finally!)
Work was insane for the past few days. Hopes that I'd use the quiet week to catch up on overdue projects were dashed and bashed repeatedly and violently by the demands of sales teams making the end of quarter work around the holidays. Glad to be of help, but gave me an insane headache yesterday, which I slept off for a luxurious 12 hours.
Not to say I didn't work a little today, but! I woke up so refreshed, I finally moved some money around and made some year-end donations to a few charities: ACLU, Planned Parenthood Golden Gate, Donors Choose, and SPCA East Bay. Got a few bucks extra at the end of the year? The ACLU and PPGG are being matched by outside donors if you donate by the end of this year. Donors Choose has a lot of projects which are being matched by corporate donors too.
I tried this year to do a lot of handmade, with mixed results. Today I had a few projects left, which, if I'd run errands last night or this morning, I totally could have finished. However, I would have been a mess of stress and I really don't think Paul deserves much more of me being like that. So I decided to accept where I was and take it easy today. From cards and cookies to gifts and (half-finished) decorations, it's been fun, but it's time to accept our flaws and move on to the "peace" part of the holiday!
I love you all and hope you are having a wonderful holiday of choice, or if you choose no holiday at all, a merry merry Thursday!
Tuesday, December 22, 2009
Craft Day
I've sent a calendar invite if I knew you were interested. If you are interested and didn't get an invite, please send me a message!
Nothing major, just sitting around doing crafty stuff and talking smack.
Monday, December 21, 2009
Happy Solstice!
"Happy Holidays" is fine, and so is "Season's Greetings," but for me it's "Merry Christmas!"
Still, today is Winter Solstice, and it's basically the same mixed-up business. (religions have been "borrowing" gods, holidays, and myths from each other forever, and this is no exception.) From darkness to light! Hope is born! And the cycle continues.
I came across this short article at Scienceblogs with a quick explanation of the astronomy, and, more importantly, pretty pictures of the sun in its various phases. oooooh, purty!
Thursday, December 10, 2009
It's SNEW, eh?!??
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Cool!
And what's that in the grass next to the snow?
REINDEERZ!
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That must mean it's Christmas and time for celebrating! As soon as I saw the snow shoveling in, I was shamed into finally hanging our office Christmas lights, then...
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ketchup
The weekend before Thanksgiving, one of my best friends from my tortured early teenage years came up from LA to visit. We had fun catching up, and spent Saturday in the East Bay. Lunch at Lanesplitters gave me the chance to catch up some pints of beer from the exquisite Moonlight Brewing, which is unavailable in our new suburban hell. Then we went to Takara Sake for a tasty and informative sake tasting, followed by a quick visit to the Albany Bulb while the sun threatened to go down. Ever adventurous, we rocekted through Alameda at an illicit 26 mph to go see Kevy and Jonathon for dinner and tiki and good conversation. It was a blast, and I hope they visit again.
Then Thanksgiving came, and we got to bring Paul's mom and her incredibly sweet doggy with us:
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But unfortunately, I got the plague and had to try to keep her away from me. We still managed to get out for high tea, including tiaras and pinkies-out tea drinking.
Then I was sick for a really long time and the only thing that could cheer me up was getting a Christmas tree!
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And then decorating the heck out of the house. Our lights are awesome and the Christmas music is on repeat (Paul is a real trooper).
My mom and sister came over this past Sunday for a hastily "planned" craft day, which I used as an excuse to play with glitter. It was nice to have stitch and bitch craft time, and we'll try to do it monthly, maybe others will come and bring their projects! Or at least their latent glitter tendencies. I've been keeping pretty busy with lots of crafty stuff, but mostly it is stuff I can't share because it is Christmas gifts... so there.
Thursday, November 19, 2009
Friday, November 13, 2009
Teh internets, they haz the scammers
Hi everyone,
You may have received a strange email from [redacted]'s email address this morning ([redacted]@gmail.com).
[redacted] is not in London, and she has not been robbed at gunpoint. She is perfectly fine.
Her account has been stolen by a scammer with a well known scam
This scammer has also taken control of her Facebook account, and is attempting to get her friends to give him/her money. It's possible that the scammer might access other accounts to try to contact people and get money.
Please ignore any requests coming from [redacted]'s accounts. If you've given any information to anyone pretending to be [redacted] in the past 12 hours, consider changing passwords as necessary.
And please secure your own passwords.
There are lots of articles about securing your passwords, but at the VERY LEAST: do NOT share a single password for your important accounts (gmail, banks, etc) and anything else. In particular, don't share the same password with Facebook, as it is very easily phished.
I don't know who was in [redacted]'s address book, but I'm emailing everyone I think *might* have been. I apologize if this reaches you in error
-Rebecca- Hide quoted text -
On Fri, Nov 13, 2009 at 4:19 AM, [redacted] <[redacted]@gmail.com> wrote:
Hello
I'm sorry I didn't inform you about my traveling. I am presently in London, United Kingdom and I'm stuck here.
I was mugged on my way to the hotel and my money,credit cards,phone and other valuable things were taken off me at gun point.
I need you to lend me some money , I need to sort out my hotel bills and get my tickets straightened out .
I would be glad if you can help me and I promise to pay you back Immediately I get back home .
Waiting to hear from you.
Thanks
--
[redacted]
PLEASE, please, if you ignore all the rest of the advice about password security, at least do this.
I personally dislike Facebook in particular because it so often asks you to allow account access for stupid shit, and it is so common to get messages (emails) which you click to go to Facebook and then it asks you to log in. With your password. From a link in your email. How many times do you have to do this before it becomes so routine you forget to be careful?
I am not a security expert by any stretch of the imagination, but I feel this lulls Facebook users into a sense of complacency in giving up account information at the drop of a hat.
I don't know for sure how this hack happened, but I would put money on this:
- the user was phished with fake Facebook request to log in, providing the hacker the user's account credentials.
- the hacker used those credentials to log into Facebook and found the user's email address and maybe other info.
- the hacker guessed (because this is unfortunately common) that the user might use the same password for their other accounts, and successfully logs in to the users other accounts (email, etc... anything that's listed in Facebook! and then anything that's listed in the other accounts they are now accessing!)
- the hacker changes secondary email addresses and phone numbers that are in each account which the user could otherwise use to recover their password. Now the user is completely locked out.
- the hacker starts spamming/phishing all contacts in the users various accounts
It is not that difficult to get a user to give up a password. Therefor, don't re-use passwords, so if you do make a mistake, you won't be handing over the keys to everything you own, all at once.
UPDATE: ok, this is not the one I was thinking of, but I found a funny transcript from one of these scammers chats here.
Thursday, November 05, 2009
Forty Years!
Paul and I made invitations to send out for the party:
| From 2009 |
And then, September 12h, we celebrated!
We baked and cooked and decorated, and finally, there was a party!
I didn't take any pictures, so I'm stealing this one from my sister:
A good time was had by all, and my parents' friends totally stayed until like 1:30 am, tiring us kids out.
I hope Paul and I will be surrounded by such wonderful people (and food) 39 years from now. But I know it's a lot of work cultivating such a great marriage and community. We'll start with just the cat.
Forty More Years!
Monday, November 02, 2009
Novelty Cat!
Over a couple of months, we noticed the cat seemed to be limping slightly. At first, we thought it might be to do with uric acid buildup because she had the beginnings of kidney problems. So we got her the recommended meds and waited a bit, but it only got worse. So, to the vet!
The vet decided to biopsy because it was likely osteosarcoma. The biopsy was fairly major surgery, because, really, anything has to be major on a cat. I think we both thought it would be something like a needle biopsy, but actually, they took out quite a big chunk of bone, and we were both a little sobered by that. The general anaesthesia really messed her up for a few days, and she needed to be pilled.
| From 2009 |
(post biopsy. Shaving the cat is quite eye-opening! This link shows what the stitches look like.)
They referred us to another vet hospital, where there was an oncologist, just for confirmation. We were, at this point, borrowing my parents' car and carting the cat around in a moving box, because this was around the same time we were moving house.
It was around this time we saw the X-Rays they had taken of her before the biopsy, and:
- It was obvious from the X-Ray that the bone on the bad leg had a different density or texture
- She had a pellet in her hip, presumable from when she got shot in the eye about 12 years ago. Kitty is gangsta!
Osteosarcoma in cats behaves differently from the way it behaves in dogs. While dogs will typically have it spread and kill them, cats often just need an amputation and that solves the problem. There's no need for chemotherapy or anything like that.
We had the option to have the surgery done at Sunnyvale Vet Clinic, where Paul usually takes the cat, and the second clinic, Veterinary Surgical Associates, where we saw the oncologist. This was a more heartwrenching decision than you'd think. The second place was clearly very professional and top-of-the-line. It was also about 3x the price. Sunnyvale is a smaller, more homey clinic-- well worn, but the people are really nice and they love the cat. We took her there, but it was kind of a sad thought to wonder if we were making the decision solely on price...
At this point, we started getting advice, wanted and unwanted, from others. I looked around on the internet for other people's experiences. The vet thought the cat was pretty healthy (other than being overweight) and recommended amputation. There were a lot of people on the internet saying they had done this with their cat, and the cat recovered and rebalanced quickly. Granted, there were more than a few "let the cat go, put it down" on the internet too, but not one was from someone who had actually gone through this.
Point is, if your cat has osteosarcoma, and it is localized, don't believe the folks who implore you to let go for kitty's sake. Cats get along fine with 3 legs. (she can't count anyway, so how would she know? We just tell her it was always like that.)
So we scheduled the surgery, at Sunnyvale Vet Clinic. In the meantime, she was just beginning to recover from the biopsy surgery. The anesthesia, pain medication, and antibiotics cocktail will make your cat pretty sad and pathetic, and royally screw up their digestive track.
For surgery, we borrowed the car again and Paul dropped her off in the morning, and we picked her up together in the early evening.
She. Was. So. Pathetic.
It was totally heartbreaking to open the box and see her in a little knit stocking with a cone on her head, her usually robust voice raspy, woozy, and scared.
So now you take the cat home, and there's nothing you can do to make the cat happy. What you have to do is focus on not letting the cat hurt herself further, from falling, ripping staples/stitches (she had staples), etc. We tried to remove anything that she might want to climb on. She sat around and cried a lot, and in between, she stumbled around loudly and frantically, confused by her meds, on top of the fact that her balance was gone. It was really depressing for a long while. And again with the digestive problems, but now you add the fact that she has no balance in the litterbox-- it's NOT a pretty sight.
It was pretty bleak around our house for a few weeks, but she started to heal, and the thump/drag sound of her getting down the hall got more rhythmic and less interrupted by loud thunks. the staples came out and the doctor gave her the all-clear. (though she does need to lose some weight to help her single leg support her) She started climbing up on the couch when no one was looking, and we wondered how she got down. Rather theatrically, it turned out, as it was a cartwheel every time. She's gotten a little better at that, but we still have to be really careful what we leave for her to climb on, because we don't want her cartwheeling and injuring herself.
| From 2009 |
(here she is after the amputation, several weeks later. Paul would have killed me if I was taking pictures of her right away. It was not pretty, really-- but it gets better!)
The best part is, her energy level is back up to where it was before she started limping. Before the biopsy, she had gotten quite lethargic, which is hard to discern in a cat due to their inherent love of laying around. But it's clear to me that she was tired from fighting the cancer, and with that gone, she has gotten a little of her energy back.
In the end, I wanted to report this in case anyone else is facing feline osteosarcoma and wondering if amputation is really something they want to go through with. If your cat is otherwise healthy, (or not, like, say, if it is missing an eye and grossly obese) then I say definitely consider it without your own baggage about how you think YOU might be impacted by losing a leg. Cats are totally different, and can get along just fine.
And plus it makes a great novelty when visitors come over.
The Short Version
Paul's cat was misbehaving, and we discovered it was because she had too many legs! So we had her altered into a much cooler novelty cat. Whilst in the process, we found out she was shot in the ass about twelve years ago (presumably at the same time she was shot and lost her eye) and has had the pellet lodged in her hip this entire time. Kitty's tough, yo.
Always remember: never pick a fight with the ugly chick-- she's got nothing to lose.
Moved!
Despite a softened rental market, it's still difficult to find places that meet all of our needs, specifically:
- Must have enclosed, private, garage
- Must not share walls (we could hear our old neighbors snoring through our bedroom wall, which was a really unpleasant thought)
- Must allow cat (this was actually one of the more difficult ones. Many landlords would rather let their properties sit on craigslist for many months, than allow a lazy old cat in the house)
- And, the one weird thing we had to check at every location:
- Roof cannot be accessed from any nearby structures. This is something that never occurred to us before moving into the Mountain View pit.
- Location: needed to be near a work shuttle or caltrain, and within a mile of a grocery, with strong preference for a "downtown" nearby
Sure, there were other nice-to-haves*, but these criteria were plenty to make the whole process rather painful and desperate.
After several weeks of looking and getting more and more dejected, we managed to pick up a place in Sunnyvale, not too far from Murphy Street (Sunnyvale's downtownish district)
And? it was bigger than we needed, and we were thrilled.
The new place is bigger, has insulation, modern wiring and plumbing, a much bigger garage, our own laundry, and 100% fewer people on our roof. The commute to work takes a bit longer, and the area is a lot sleepier, but it is sooooo much nicer.
*A few weeks ago, we discussed adding "no persimmon or pomegranate trees" to our list, because based on our recent experience, they clearly attract tweakers.
Birthday camping!
But, he really does like time with friends, and he really does like camping. So camping we went.
the cast:
Paul (birthday boy)
Me (bad idea generator)
Jennifer (my sweet, enthusiastic, always-fun sister)
Daniel (Paul's best man)
Amy (who gamely took a 3-year old on his first camping trip whilst pregnant, and without the help of her husband for the first half of the weekend)
Quinn (3 year old, not quite potty-trained)
Jesse (who showed up late Saturday night after work, bringing Paul handmade sausage and Amy some respite, and also bringing...
Lola! (the wonder dog)
It was a fantastic weekend. The script went something like this:
Me: ok, here we are. We have three sites, which is way more than we need. Most of our stuff is in Jennifer's car, and she's not here yet, so we can't pitch our tent. Pretty much all we can do is... drink this wine I brought!
| From 2009.08.01 Camping in Portola Redwoods |
Paul: OK, I can live with that. glug glug glug. OK, no more wine, now what?
(enter Amy and Quinn)
All: yay!
Quinn: These bathrooms are scary.
Amy: that's ok, you can just pee on the tree!
Quinn: (loves it)
(enter Jennifer and Daniel-- can't remember who came first)
All: glug, glug, glug
Quinn: The kids' campfire ranger thing was way lame.
Paul: "Bats eat bugs, they don't eat people"
Quinn: Mom, can I go home and watch Teevee?
(FIRE!!!)
Quinn: "We're going on a bear hunt! I'm not afraid!" (repeated ad nauseum)
All: zzz zzz zzz
(end act 1)
Act 2
All: ok, let's go for a hike!
Quinn: boring!
Paul: Quinn, there are BEARS on the trail! Let's go find them.
Quinn: ok, first I gotta make my poor sainted mom change my diaper trailside.
Amy: I'm so awesome and unflappable, this does not even phase me.
(every time Quinn gets tired and slows down...
Paul/Rebecca/Amy: Quinn! I just saw the bear! It is just around the corner up there on the trail! Did you see it??!?!
(Finally, Quinn is too tired, and makes his pregnant mom carry him up the steepest parts of the hike)
Daniel: ok, hike is over, I'm taking a nap
Boy camping next to us: Hey, Quinn, let's play with the ball
Quinn: yay! (then proceeds to fail at playing WITH the boy by running off with the ball every chance he gets)
Boy: I am so patient and unflappable, this does not phase me. (continues playing with Quinn)
Amy: Dinner time!
Quinn: I'm going to pour salt in Rebecca's wine.
Rebecca: OMG, he really did just pour salt in my wine.
Daniel: (to Rebecca) I am the awesomest friend ever, and brought a cheesecake and candles.
Amy, Quinn, Daniel, Jennifer, and Me: Happy Birthday to you, Happy Birthday to you! Happy Birthday dear Paul, Happy Birthday to you!
Paul: OMG, this is so great. Nom, Nom, Nom. I am totally stuffed.
(enter Jesse and Lola)
Jesse: I totally drove around getting lost in the dark, but now I am here, and I brought beer and homemade sausage for Paul
Paul: (already stuffed and drunk) glug glug glug, nom nom nom.
Lola: ball, ball ball, BARK! stick, stick, stick BARK!
All: zzz zzz zzz
(end act 2)
Act 3
Paul: ouch. With the loud noises, and the bright lights!
Rebecca: Let's go for a short hike before we go.
All: Yay!
Quinn: Mommy, can I go home and watch TeeVee!??
Lola: Stick, stick, stick. Why don't you throw the stick and I'll chase it? BARK!
Daniel: Screw you guys, I'm going home.
All: Let's go to Santa Cruz and have beer, I mean, Lunch.
All: Beer was nice, now to the beach!
Lola: Stick, stick, stick. BARK!
All: ok, everyone go home!
(all exit stage)
Act 4
two weeks later, at Rebecca's birthday
Amy: Yeah, so apparently the peeing in the woods thing wasn't a good idea. The next day, his daycare teacher was like "what the hell happened to his potty training??" ... oops.
It was fantastic.
You would think tht I would have pictures of us l camping and hiking and whatnot, but you would be wrong.
Aquarium Weekend Katsup
So, it will never be caught up. But to go back t some highlights...
In late July, an old friend came out for a visit. Even though I've only seen Ethan a handful of times over the years, it's always surprising just how quickly he feels like an old friend. We met at the Monterey Bay Aquarium on Saturday, where I was attacked by a giant whale:
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| From 2009 |
The Monterey Bay Aquarium is great, but full of really obnoxious people who feel the need to take pictures of each and every tank. Of course, they are not going to look at all 500 of these blurry cellphone pictures ever again, but that doesn't stop them from jamming the things in between you, who are actually looking at the exhibits, and the tanks.... for 5 minutes while they try to get just the right stupid shot. The Monterey Bay Aquarium is a good place for kids. My personal favorite was watching the otters gleefully rip apart their meals. Who would have thought entrails could look so cute? (besides Peter Jackson in Dead Alive-- adorable!)
It was a bit of a cat-herding exercise to keep the entire group together but we did manage to get to dinner together at a Thai place across the street from the aquarium, which I thought to be surprisingly un-bad, despite it's proximity to tourist hell. Then we went to Kapp's Pizza in Mountain View for a few beers before calling it a night.
Sunday we went to the Academy of Sciences in San Francisco, which was fantastic, and a little less kid-oriented (that's a good thing, for me) The building is beautiful, the rainforest is fun, and they have set up the large tanks so you can see them from a different angles from the different levels. Paul tried to jump into the alligator pit
| From 2009 |
For dinner, we went to Axum in Lower Haight for some tasty Ethiopian food.
Every few years, I get a picture like this:
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| From 2009 |
and am reminded that even though people are far apart, good friends will reconnect almost immediately. I have to admit, I was wondering how awkward it might be to see someone you haven't seen for years, then spend two days with them. It was great to see Ethan!
Hooray!
Thursday, August 06, 2009
Friday, July 24, 2009
5 Things I Did Yesterday
- Made plans for this weekend: aquarium marathon!
- Ate a lot of rum cake.
- Considered whether I could get rid of most of my belongings, just so we could fit into a smaller rental somewhere else.
- Took in the car show, again, at Mountain View's Thursday Night Live street thingie. Look! A car with stupid shit stuck to it! Look! A guy with paste on sideburns and rockabilly hair! What a hip town we live in.
- Slept on the wrong side of the bed, ensuring that I would, uhh, wake up on the wrong side of the bed.
Thursday, July 23, 2009
Five Problems I Don't Have
- Watching TV. We don't even have TeeVee. What we do have is Daily Show and Colbert Report, on Comedy Central's intertubesite, for free the day after everyone else. How people have time for more than that, I'll never understand.
- Credit Debt. I had some when I was in my early twenties. Now I'm a "freeloader," collecting miles but never paying interest charges. Woot.
- Traffic. I don't have to commute much, and if I do, I get to lanesplit. One of the reasons I'll probably never leave California. Without lanesplitting as a factor, Seattle or any other nice town might be a contender.
- Unemployment. There's a lot of unemployment, and underemployment, going on right now. I am lucky not to be in that boat right now, and to be able to provide for myself and my husband. Better yet, I actually like my job, my team, and my company. For once, I feel like I got some of the magical luck I've always envied my brother for.
- Laziness. I may be a procrastinator, but I don't have it nearly as bad as other people. I'm driven, and although I'm not the best at always finishing things, I'm getting better at seeing the work for what it is, and driving it through completion, or seeing that it needs to be delegated or dumped.
Wednesday, July 22, 2009
Yesterday
- Cherries, lots of them. And very tasty.
- Writing a "Dear John, RTFM" letter to a challenging contact, in the nicest possible way, with my boss' full support.
- Nothing says "I love you" like a pile of money. Even vapor, future money.
- Paul finally got to talk with the academic counselor, which was borderline useless, but at least it can be checked off the list and he can proceed
- Trying a new restaurant on Castro Street, and not leaving with the, "well, now we know, check that off the list" disappointment we usually get.
Tuesday, July 14, 2009
weekend
The highlight must have been Sunday morning. Paul made Grandma Kay's Waffles!
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| From 2009 |
Paul heroically ate 2 1/2, while I just managed to finish about 1 3/4. Mine were, of course, smothered in Laura Scudders peanut butter and maple syrup, the way god intended.
I spent the rest of the time combing craigslist for a new place, and getting rather dejected.
The number of places that won't accept pets is disheartening, especially when you see what a dump half of them are (as if a fifteen y/o cat could make the place any worse), or that the landlord insists you not call them unless you have already given notice to your old landlord and are ready to move in RIGHT NOW. Like somehow being a dog or cat person is terrible, but being a dumbass who can't plan shit and/or has been forced out of their apartment on short notice makes you a great rental prospect.
Whatevs.
I got myself into a big stinky project at work that will be very cathartic if and when it works out. It s a pain, but cleanup projects appeal to my compulsive nature. Like picking at a scab.
Today, my team celebrated our (belated) two-year teamiversary, and had Patxi's pizza and then checked out Vanilla Moon in San Carlos. I was impressed with their buttercream, not so fond of their cream cheese frosting. Clearly, further analysis is required.
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| From 2009 |
Friday, July 10, 2009
Looking for Bottom?
the answer is, depends, probably on where you are. Here? No.
Here's the NUMBER ONE reason why: Unemployment is out of control.
Also consider: Delinquencies on mortgages are still growing, and in the previously "safe" Prime territory
If you're at all interested in economics, and have not yet added Mish's blog to your reader, you are really missing out on good stuff.
Also, where I live anyway, houses are still way too expensive to rent the money from the bank to "own" them.
Paul and I desperately want to move. Yesterday I saw a listing on craigslist that looked workable for a place we might want to live for two years or so (not longer-- it was too small for permanent roots) The rental listing is for $1700/month. Later the same day, I saw it listed on the MLS for a price of $499,000.
Everyone who's interested in housing and renting, bookmark this fun calculator.
I realize the calculator is an imperfect picture (also has lots of inputs for tax rates and whatnot, so I tried to use a best case scenario but your results will vary), but it does show that buying will not be better than renting at these prices ever, unless the house appreciates at 5%/year, and in that case it is better after 5 years. (I believe 5% inflation in house prices over the next 5 years is a fantasy scenario.) Without belaboring the specifics of this particular house:
- This is a big IF: how many people have $100K sitting around for that downpayment on a tiny little house like that? (not to mention closing costs and cash reserve for repairs and what-ifs) If they do have $100K cash, are they a new family that will fit in such a small house? (2/1, with 790 square feet) Are they planning on staying there many years to break even?
- Based on other homes prices in the area, my strong suspicion is that this has been priced "low" to generate bids upwards of the listed price so that will make these numbers even more ridiculous if I am right.
What really matters
That being said, if you have found something and have the means to buy it and hold on to it, by all means, do it. Where you live is where you live-- it is not a financial vehicle.
If you can buy an iPhone the day before the new one comes out and the price of your model drops the next day, ask yourself: "yesterday, I decided this phone was worth X dollars to me, and I bought it. Does tomorrow's price drop mean I don't enjoy the phone at X dollars anymore?" If you can't live with that, don't buy. But there's no reason that tomorrow's price drop should change the fact that yesterday you said the phone was worth X dollars to you. Once you've made your decision, don't look back. Live in your home, love your phone, and move on. If you think your phone or your home is an investment, beware of your market right now.
And get ready to be stressed out all your life about things that are marginally outside of your control.
Tuesday, July 07, 2009
Tart Hotness
Paul made these lovely tarts on July Fourth:
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| From 2009 |
They were made from fresh fruit (some from the garden), and were beautiful, and tasty, and, umm... tart.
Is there anything he *can't* do???
Monday, July 06, 2009
Illegitimi non carborundum
I had a three day weekend, and the bastards have been getting me down recently, so we had a three day marathon of reconnection. Friday we went to Berkeley and cleaned the hell out of Paul's mom's place in preparation for her return from the hospital. I sanitized every surface and brushed three extra dogs out of Kathie's dog, and we finally got the call that Kathie was ready to come home! It was very nice to see her back in her own home. With everything in its place, we took off to dinner with friends at their house on Ashby. They had an adorable dog and a one-month-ish baby, and were doing fantastic. We got whistled and hissed at by their cockatiels, ate three desserts, and talked lots of smack about motorbikes. hooray!
Saturday we hit the Turner Compound for the 4th of July BBQ. Unfortunately, I was still feeling rather unhappy and having difficulty dealing with humans (why can't everybody just be a labrador retriever?), but made the best of it long enough to eat the fruit tarts Paul made and catch up with some folks. 7:30 rolled around and I had to shoot up to the City to cashier at New Wave City, which? Was pretty slow as I'd expected. In bed by 2:45 am, hooray?
Sunday we ambled up to Alameda to BBQ with friends we had not seen in a very long time. I finally met Kevy's husband, Jonathon, and Dan-n-Irene's new baby, Natasha. Alameda is a nice place but very difficult to get to and from. I think it's nice that all of our friends are moving there to form community together, and I'm really kind of jealous because I hate the South Bay, but the commute to and from Alameda would kill me (if the speed limit didn't get me first). We stopped in Berkeley to do some chores for Kathie and eat ice cream before returning home, and then back to the grind. no hooray.
And then I had a night of weird dreams, the kind the pick at scabs that you know have been long healed. "I've moved on," you say, "you need to move on too." "But I just need to know" "no you don't"
I was reminded recently how spontaneously something you care deeply about can blow up in your face. And if it was a pillar for you, it will leave you very shaky. I need to choose my pillars more carefully, and let other things be what they are. Not just let, but restrain.
cease this long, long rest
wake and risk a foul weakness to live
when it all comes down
watch the smoke and bury the past again
sit and think what will come
raise your fears and cast them all away
~Neurosis
Thursday, July 02, 2009
My house is finally on the market!
Now it is on the market, and I'm quite sure someone wants to loan me 2.4 million dollars so I can run back up to the City. It's really the perfect property. Garage, downtown loveliness, but a quiet-ish street. Hello, Sailor!


















